Transitions force us out of familiar, old ways of being and into uncertain, new ways of operating. Whether its taking on a new role at work or reforming personal relationships, the mindfulness we cultivate through yoga can not only ease the unsettling feeling of transition, but help you find peace in the process.

My divorce papers were filed over one year ago, and today, we still seem far from our final court date. I have no clue what my life will look like or what I’ll have when it finally wraps up. Though I have an idea of how I want things to be, I still know there is plenty outside of my control. The unknowns and lack of control are more anxiety-inducing than I ever imagined. I’ve had to call upon all of my resources, starting with my community.

No one should go through change alone. Your community, whether family, old friends, your partner or workout buddies are a needed, grounding presence. Intentionally envelop yourself with people who know the real you. These should be people you trust and can listen to when your thought process is clouded with emotion. They can help you keep a higher level perspective, while providing a sense of love and normalcy we all crave. If you feel like you have no outside support, invoke a therapist you can vent and talk with. Create a framework of support and don’t be afraid to use it.

Just as important is to consciously avoid toxic coping behaviors, while sticking with healthy routines. Though it may sound obvious, it is easy to fall into the quick, easy ways of feeling good when we’re harried. It takes commitment to go to yoga class on the days you don’t have energy. It takes willpower to not rush back to the bad relationship or numb feelings with a drink. And if you do get off track, give yourself grace. Be vulnerable enough to let a trusted friend know your weaknesses and routine aspirations. This transparency helps hold you accountable.

It’s common to worry about the future or lament about what could have been. Don’t let rumination keep you from taking in the good things around you, right now.  You need them. Whether it’s your child’s smile or a routine sunset, don’t take for granted the beauty and positivity surrounding you. We practice presence in yoga precisely because it is so hard to remember in tough situations.

At times you’ll be frustrated, but don’t rush the process. I’d urge you to take that pause we use so often in yoga to give you real life breathing room. Decisions you make now, big or small,  dictate your new direction. Be willing to sit with the discomfort and listen to your inner wisdom. Transitions are rich with life lessons. Even the worst predicaments can turn into positive growth opportunities.